I hate it when people use Marilyn Monroe to justify their weight!
I don’t know about anyone else, but I hate it when I come across comments on pictures of Marilyn and they say things like, “Look, her thighs touch, she’s a real woman!”, “I love that she accepts her curves!”.
First of all, just because a woman’s thighs touch or don’t touch doesn’t make her any less or more of a woman. There is no one uniform way in which to be ‘woman’. My thighs don’t touch. That’s not through any effort on my part, that’s just the way I’m built. Just like a lady who’s thighs do touch are more than likely the result of her genetic makeup. There is no right or wrong in either case, we are just working with what we have been given.
Secondly, Marilyn didn’t have to ‘accept’ her curves. Accepting ones curves is very much a symptom of today’s body politicing that originates from increased and easier access to celebrities on their down time, which feeds the 24 hour gossip blogs. Marilyn was very much in keeping with the standards of female beauty in her time. Like all of us, her weight fluctuated, as her sad lament of her reaction to her appearance in Some Like It Hot testifies: “They’re laughing at me, the funny fat pig.” And please keep in mind that Audrey Hepburn was every bit a standard bearer of beauty and femininity in the 1950s as Marilyn was.
I think, in all, what hurts the most from comments like these is that they are made by women and directed at other women. I think every woman reading this will agree that it’s bloody brilliant being a woman! I regularly look over at the menswear department and think, “you poor bastards, how many variations on beige and grey can you live with?” But I think it’s safe to say that there are times when it’s not so great to be a woman. Such as when you see a rape awareness campaign with the slogan, “Women, don’t get raped!” and we shake our heads again and ask where the attacker oriented campaign is. Or when we are at work and see that lazy guy get credit for our efforts. (I know I’ve slightly gone off track here, but you know what I mean!)
So come on girls, stop slating each other in the comments box and support each other! After all, it was Marilyn who said, “you should tell every little girl they are beautiful, even if they aren’t”.